twenty3. seattle. medium tall. thinker, dreamer, writer, photographer (sometimes at the same time, sometimes not). believes in heaven and the living God. seeks beaches, museums, playgrounds, malls, markets, home. expert bargain hunter, secret keeper, & food devourer by day and a movie fanatic (rom-com and ones related to spies or superheroes), tv show/music/k-drama addict, & food devourer by night. sometimes a bad friend, but a good listener. iced vanilla lattes. frank lloyd wright. dr seuss. serious sweet-tooth: cotton candy & haribo anything. big city girl stuck in a small city world. always wants to make sense of the things that don't make sense. flawed to the core but she is loved. the 1 corinthians 13 kind of love.
I realize that there is this fine, undetectable line that couples cross at some point (given that they are together long enough). The line comes and passes like a ninja, throwing the two couples into confusion and maybe into a few fights - but they often don’t know why or how it happened. What is this line?
So, this is my theory. There is a point in any relationship (i.e. dating, friendships, family, etc.) when what used to be a favor turns into a responsibility. For example, when dating is all brand new, the girl doesn’t expect him to pull out chairs or tell her she’s amazing everyday… so when he does do these things - often or not - the girl is surprised and everything is sunshine and daisies.
UNTIL
one day, the girl transitions from having no expectations to having high ones and the boy transitions from hero to zero, to lazy and unappreciative. Suddenly, the boy stops pulling out chairs, stops telling her she’s amazing everyday and, simultaneously, the girl is beginning to get pissed off everyday because the boy isn’t meeting her expectations.
Maybe the solution here is two-fold. (1) For both people to know that this line exists and WILL be crossed; knowledge is power. (2) For guys/friends/families to put their rear into gear and stop slacking off.
The end.
